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UNDERSTANDING WOMEN
Most men have given up the hope of understanding women. A woman will tell you that she wants this, but you see her going for the opposite thing.
You would see a lady lamenting, “Ohh! Why can’t I find a nice guy?”
Most men have given up the hope of understanding women. A woman will tell you that she wants this, but you see her going for the opposite thing.
You would see a lady lamenting, “Ohh! Why can’t I find a nice guy?”
But the same lady friend-zoned that her nice polite male friend who is willing to bring down the world for her.
You often hear ladies say, “They love men who are romantic.”
You often hear ladies say, “They love men who are romantic.”
But several times you have met a new girl and showed her you’re romantic by buying her gifts, taking her to expensive romantic first dates, sending her morning and night texts, and so on… but she ended up taking you for granted or exploiting you.
“Ahh! Confused set of human beings!” Most men cry in frustration.
But after this post, you will understand the basic systematic of the female mind.
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN: WOMEN ARE EMOTIONALLY DRIVEN
Generally, human beings are emotional beings.
But after this post, you will understand the basic systematic of the female mind.
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN: WOMEN ARE EMOTIONALLY DRIVEN
Generally, human beings are emotional beings.
However women in particular are more emotionally driven than men. Hence, they speak emotions and cover it with logic. But men interpret things more logically.
For Instance.
A man might say, “Okay, you can go ahead.” And what he really means is that you can go ahead.
For Instance.
A man might say, “Okay, you can go ahead.” And what he really means is that you can go ahead.
But when a woman tells you, “Okay, you can go ahead.” Most times it’s a trap or a dare.
The frustration comes when you try to understand what women say logically, instead of emotionally.
The frustration comes when you try to understand what women say logically, instead of emotionally.
In understanding women, the first thing you have to do is to decode whatever they say emotionally and not logically.
EXAMPLE I
Statement: “Ohh! Why can’t I find a nice guy?” A lady asks.
EXAMPLE I
Statement: “Ohh! Why can’t I find a nice guy?” A lady asks.
What a regular guy thinks she means: She needs a polite man who will treat her like a queen or goddess. Who will take it slow with her and do for her everything she asks of him.
What she actually means: Ohh! Why can’t I find a confident, seductive, and attractive man, who will sweep me off my feet, but has a GOOD heart?
A dominant man who would genuinely care about how I feel and my emotions, and not a player who will break my heart.
A dominant man who would genuinely care about how I feel and my emotions, and not a player who will break my heart.
When she said ‘nice,’ she never meant a guy who would place her on a pedestal and treat like a goddess.
EXAMPLE II
Statement: “Women love men who are romantic men.” Most women say.
EXAMPLE II
Statement: “Women love men who are romantic men.” Most women say.
What a regular guy thinks it means Women love men who spends so much cash on them, buying them gifts and taking them to expensive restaurants.
What it really means, Women love seductive men who are capable of connecting emotionally with them, and are capable of exciting those erotic and romantic feelings in them by the way they act around them, the way they talk so seductively to them, and the words they say to them.
What women seek is that passionate romance portrayed in most romantic novels, which they have been feeding their mind since they were teenagers.
And they definitely do not see buying of gifts and spending too much on them immediately you meet them as being romantic.
And they definitely do not see buying of gifts and spending too much on them immediately you meet them as being romantic.
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN: WOMEN ARE HIGHLY IMPLICIT
Another thing you have to know about ladies which would help you in understanding women is that they’re very good in concealing their true intentions.
Another thing you have to know about ladies which would help you in understanding women is that they’re very good in concealing their true intentions.
In other words, they don’t usually blatantly tell you what they want from you especially when it comes to showing you interest; that they like you.
Why? Because they don’t want to lose value in your eyes or in the eyes of the society in case you didn’t act on it.
Why? Because they don’t want to lose value in your eyes or in the eyes of the society in case you didn’t act on it.
Rejection pains girls more than it pains guys.
This is because they are usually the ones who are meant to be chased and shown interest to, so when they now show you interest and you don’t act on it or you reject them it pains them greatly.
This is because they are usually the ones who are meant to be chased and shown interest to, so when they now show you interest and you don’t act on it or you reject them it pains them greatly.
Hence, when girls show you interest, they do it so implicitly, so that they could always claim they were not serious that is, if you don’t capitalize on it.
EXAMPLE III
Scenario: You and a lady were chatting and it was really going well; and she suddenly says that you too would look good together. Then immediately she laughs and says “Hahaha, this one is happy, you and who? Big head like you.
Scenario: You and a lady were chatting and it was really going well; and she suddenly says that you too would look good together. Then immediately she laughs and says “Hahaha, this one is happy, you and who? Big head like you.
Analysis: She really meant what she said initially, she already likes you and thinks you two would make a lovely couple. So ignore the sarcasm in the end, and start escalating things with her by flirting more with her.
EXAMPLE IV
Scenario: You met a girl newly and you two are having a conversation, and she’s paying you so much attention talking more to you. Then suddenly she starts acting aloof or distracted.
Scenario: You met a girl newly and you two are having a conversation, and she’s paying you so much attention talking more to you. Then suddenly she starts acting aloof or distracted.
Analysis: Ignore that her acting of not being interested, and still ask her for her contact or invite her home or whichever you had intentions of doing when you initiated the conversation with her.
According to Chase Amante, the rule is:
According to Chase Amante, the rule is:
“If a woman implies she is interested in you, you should accept the statement as a sign of interest and ignore sarcasm, aloofness, or feigned distraction as simply her efforts to protect her reputation in the event you do not feel the same or do not take
action to lead her to a satisfactory conclusion.”
EXAMPLE V
Scenario: A girl you are still trying to build rapport with tells you she will be traveling soon.
Analysis:She didn’t tell you she was traveling because she just wanted you to know or wanted you to give up hope on her.
EXAMPLE V
Scenario: A girl you are still trying to build rapport with tells you she will be traveling soon.
Analysis:She didn’t tell you she was traveling because she just wanted you to know or wanted you to give up hope on her.
No, she told you that because she likes you, and probably wants to see you and escalate things before she travels. That travel mention is a sign of urgency that you need to move fast.
EXAMPLE VI
Scenario: You on a date with a lady, and it’s really going well,
EXAMPLE VI
Scenario: You on a date with a lady, and it’s really going well,
and she suddenly tells you she is feeling sleepy or she’s tired.
Analysis: She does not mean she wants to go home and sleep. If she was really feeling sleepy or tired and wants to go home. She would tell you she has somewhere important to be, or an errand to run.
Analysis: She does not mean she wants to go home and sleep. If she was really feeling sleepy or tired and wants to go home. She would tell you she has somewhere important to be, or an errand to run.
Most times, when a girl tells you “I’m feeling sleepy or tired,” especially when the date is going so well. It means she wants you to take her to YOUR home, or somewhere you two can stay alone.
So next time you hear that, invite her home.
For instance:
Her: I’m feeling sleepy (in a low and babyish manner)
You: Okay, let’s go to my place.
Her: Why your place?
For instance:
Her: I’m feeling sleepy (in a low and babyish manner)
You: Okay, let’s go to my place.
Her: Why your place?
You: Because my bed is more comfortable than yours (you say this with sarcasm while standing up and motioning her to do so as well).
EXAMPLE VII
Scenario: When a lady asks you ‘if your house is far?’ or ‘whether you stay alone or have roommates’
EXAMPLE VII
Scenario: When a lady asks you ‘if your house is far?’ or ‘whether you stay alone or have roommates’
Analysis: She is indirectly asking you if you have somewhere you two could stay alone together and have some quality time.
CONCLUSION.
To understand women you have to sieve everything they say, and try to decode the emotions and true intentions behind it.
CONCLUSION.
To understand women you have to sieve everything they say, and try to decode the emotions and true intentions behind it.
Always pay attention to a girl’s body language and eyes, it gives you a better hint to what she really wants; that’s the secret to understanding women.
I hope you enjoyed the lecture in understanding women? Good!
I hope you enjoyed the lecture in understanding women? Good!
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