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People give silent treatment a bad rap and rightly so. But there should be room for people who take time to process what they are feeling before expressing it. And that’s fine too. If your partner is like that, show understanding by giving them space.
Just because someone is processing doesn’t automatically mean they are giving you silent treatment. I’m like that. And I’ve found that people who are instance communicators hardly extend to me the patience they want me to extend to them. They want you to talk at their own time.
Then they make matters worse by accusing me of giving the silent treatment. And then I’m like “okay cool” and they get mad again. Then I’m like “okay I’ll leave to take my space” and they get mad x10. So instance communicators also have a share in the break down of communication.
If I try my best to get over it in the moment just so I won’t be accused of giving silent treatment, I have the tendency to bring it up later when I am finally ready to talk about it. They interpret my earlier attitude as being over it & then are mad I bring it up later. Sighs.
Just know the communication style of your partner and be ready to meet in the middle. Don’t force people to have conversations just because you are ready to have those conversations. Shalom.
*instant* communicators
Whisky. Too much.
Whisky. Too much.
