My 12-yo said something really mean to my 5-yo. It pissed me off so bad I sent him to his room w/o his games. Now the 5-yo wants to write him a letter bc she feels bad that he got in trouble for hurting her feelings. I told her she can’t write the letter.

Ain’t no damn way I’m letting her apologize to him for hurting her feelings. NO NO NO NO.

She might not understand why right now, but I tried to explain that she should never ever feel responsible for someone hurting her feelings—even her brother. He has to apologize, not her. He has to be a better person.

Bout to do a restorative circle with them. BRB. Bubba has some atoning to do.

Gotta wait until dad finishes talking to J. Then, we’ll sit together in a circle and allow Laila to share how her brother’s words harmed her. Bubba will have to address the harm he caused, and Laila will decide how he can make it right.

Dad to Laila: You have a soft heart.
Laila: Compassion. It’s not a soft heart.