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birth order personality types mess me up because I'm both the oldest and the middle child ¿ ??
let's make this a thread
let's make this a thread
background: as most of you probably know, I have a younger sister (2 yrs younger) and an older brother (5 yrs older) technically my brother is my half-brother (same dad) but I dont usually specify because who gives a crap, hes my brother but it's relevant to this situation
for the first 8 ish years of my life my brother would only be with us for a week at a time and then that eventually decreased to weekends as we started to move around bc my dad couldn't sit still so most of my early early childhood memories are just of my sister and I
then when I was around 8 or 9 he lived with us full time
bc of this and the age difference (5 yrs is where the birth order personality types "reset") I feel like my personality pulls from both first born/oldest and second born/middle
bc of this and the age difference (5 yrs is where the birth order personality types "reset") I feel like my personality pulls from both first born/oldest and second born/middle
disclaimer: I know that these personality types are not completely accurate to all people and that individuals differences will appear from person to person and not all first borns are the same etc but for the purposes of this, you get it
a lot of the things I've heard about first born personality typed are that they are confident overachievers and are often perfectionists who appreciate structure. they tend to be "mature for their age" (something I've been told a lot) firstborns are generally more intelligent ..
however they also tend to have a bigger fear of failure (!!!) they also were likely given lots of responsibility at home (chores, watching younger siblings, etc) which makes them more likely to take charge and hold positions in leadership (though they sometimes get labeled bossy)
middle children or second born are often labeled "the forgotten ones" because they are overshadowed by the achievements of their older siblings and their younger sibling (the baby) gets all of the attention because, well they're the baby
middle children are often people-pleasers and peacemakers (!!) and sometimes are labeled as a "go-with-the-flow" type. middles tend to develop stronger bonds with friends since they receive less attention at home
middle children are often the most creative in the family because they had to be creative in order to get attention from their parents. they can be somewhat rebellious and are often the first to take a trip with a friends family or sleep over at friends house
with all that said, obviously my exclamation points drew attention to things I related to. I've always heard the 𝓪𝓭𝓾𝓵𝓽𝓼 describe me as: an overachiever, intelligent, charismatic, kind, polite, perfectionist, responsible you get the idea
however I also tended to be shy and quiet (especially as a child) and though I am a musician I've never identified with being a creative type because I just play the music. that's someone else's creativity. I was imaginative as a kid but that mostly took the form of anxiety
I never really felt like I had to beg for my parents attention, nor did I feel overshadowed by my brother because we were far enough apart in age that we were both doing our own thing.
in short I guess, i am both the oldest and the middle but also neither ??
in short I guess, i am both the oldest and the middle but also neither ??
I'm tired of this thread now so I'll stop here. I also want to say that I am by no means all-knowing in this area so if anyone has any corrections I would be thrilled if you would inform and enlighten me! (politely)
thanks !!
thanks !!
