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What is America’s obsession with falling in love ..?
Ok so like I was saying this is what I meant by the question, “why are Americans obsession with falling in love”.
Basically from childhood most American children are taught to fall in love with someone which is fine but why is it such a “goal” in folks’ 20’s? Everyone had this perception of “grown and ready” for love in their 20’s in America.
Funny thing is when you go to other places around the world ppl are way more mature. Like there isn’t the thirst for a “dick appointment” in general convo. There isn’t the need to have a dozen “hoes” yet keep a “main”.
The whole idea of falling in love is already quite peculiar to me but the fact people spend the most prime years of their life drooling over the idea of waking up to the same person everyday is weird to me.
Before I ever thought about love I thought about seeing the pyramids; I thought about me & my boys starting our own businesses; graduating with every degree I wanted. Like that’s what WE were pressing .
About how he shouldn’t have and how he wish he had more free time. She’s over there feeling 40yrs old and how she’s not beautiful everyday ; the kids got her nerves all bad, etc. folks we ALL see this EVERYday across America.
I’m just perplexed at the idea of 20 something year olds putting as much energy into the idea of falling in love & having these false realities. When life hasn’t even started especially.
Like you have ppl still living with their parents literally in love triangles trying to keep their sanity. Lol. Like focus kid.
It’s just odd to me how most American born people really get drilled this fantasy of falling in love & spending 20+ hrs a day with one person for years KNOWING good & damn well it’s not going to last. That’s not weird? Lol.
Maybe to some of us who just simply don’t hold bias and observe the world with clear vision, but for most I honestly think they minimize their potential through sacrificing themselves for the idea of “love”.
I’ve met so many women in my lifetime coast to coast in America who simply are chasing the idea of love through Instagram pics , Twitter think pieces & books written by goofs like Steve Harvey & others. Yet they don’t even know who the hell they are. It’s wild to see.
Like if I’m not knowledgeable about who i am how can I get to know another human being, much less fall in love with them or marry them? Howwwwww?? Yet people force it everyday in America, everyday.
Think about how many people you know in a relationship who complain more than praise their spouse. I guarantee you it’s more complaining than praising with most individuals you know who are in relationships / married.
And yes I blame it on the forced social constructs that of having a “bae” to validate happiness. Being married is brought up in convos between females when goals are spoken of.
You can ask a young lady to name her goals and many will name “marriage” as if it benefits them. Not saying there’s anything wrong with marriage ...
It’s just when you treat marriage &/or love liken it’s graduating school people do JUST ENOUGH to get there & get through. Remember that. So before chasing the idea of falling in love, chase your dreams.
You’ll lose a lot of money, time & energy chasing love folks (mainly talking to the under 30’s), but you’ll gain so much more out of life when you chase your dreams & aspirations. Marriage / love will come , those goals won’t attain themselves though.
That’s all I’m saying. The OBSESSION with love.... that’s a problem .. to me. 
