People will think you’re stand-offish or cold and leave you be b/c of it, whole time you’re that way b/c you don’t want to be a bother or impose on other people. Ain’t it crazy how perception is reality?

I don’t usually call people first. Not b/c I don’t wanna talk, but because I don’t want to impose on what they got going on. But to others, it looks like, I don’t call b/c I don’t care to talk. Perception is truly reality.

But I’m realizing that the “I don’t want to impose or feel like a bother” mentality is really a projection of my own thoughts/insecurities. Why would I be a bother or be imposing on someone who genuinely cares about me? Why would my reaching out be a negative to them?

First time I called my best friend he answered happy af that I called first. That was a minute ago but it wasn’t until now that it made me realize “yooo.... have people wanted to hear from me this WHOLE TIME?!?!”