Frustrated with this "straight women aren't monsterfuckers we just have no choice but to be attracted to people who are bigger and stronger and more capable than us" narrative I'm seeing going around

The men I've dated have ranged from 5'1 to 6'7, my first serious male partner was someone bigger than me but who I could still throw over my shoulder and carry around

I'm not straight but I feel like this is some toxic conflation of fear of the power of patriarchy with having some kinks about dominant men and size (and monsterfucking) that y'all don't want to own up to

I'm sure there's a whole lot going on with sublimation of patriarchal social trauma into giant man kinks and that is extremely legitimate, but taking that and jumping into biological essentialism isn't the way to go

Again, neither cis nor straight, but I feel like generalizing that all cis+straight women can only be attracted to big, physically powerful, physically dangerous men is, not great

IDK I worry I sound like a macho asshole talking about hauling boyfriends around, getting thrown over someone's shoulder is fun too, I am a switch, I don't want to sound disrespectful 2 that femme+sub+size+etc desire/identity constellation because it's very much a thing

But I feel like saying that particular orientation/identity/kink polarity is the biological default for straight women who are interested in straight men is

Or the implication that all people who have that pattern of sexual desire are straight women