Day ??? of *gestures at everything* and I’ve come to offer Saturday morning advice.

There are a LOT of folks at home, which means you will be exposed to all kinds of bad takes.

My take on this? You don’t have to engage with these people. Like. At all.

Now, if you WANT to because you have the time? Sure. But some of y’all are exhausting yourselves and it shows. Please don’t forget that you’re trying to survive a pandemic — you are a lot more tired of bullshit than you think and it’s piling up faster than ever.

Believe it or not, your favorite spaces are still capable of being your fave spaces — especially now. As always, you get to cultivate your space in your way, which means you can block out the shit that annoys you instead of engaging with it.

Every community has its dark spots and those spots currently have claws because everyone’s at home, everyone’s stir crazy, and everyone’s got time. Please manage your time in a way that doesn’t completely drain you.

As someone who works at home so I’m online a lot anyway, I can tell you that bad takes have, and always will, exist on here. None of it is shocking. None of it is new. It’s just in high abundance cuz we’re all here at the same time.

And I know it’s extra draining because you want these spaces to be comforting and not dumpster fires, but in order to get to the good you gotta navigate around the trash. No community is perfect, and if you think it is it’s because you’ve done well avoiding its trash.

Basically, if you find yourself constantly lamenting how (x) is bad now or how this person or that person is terrible, take a step back, breathe, and ask yourself, “Do I have to engage with this or can I just keep moving?”

I’m gonna include serious topics in this too. As much as I speak on various forms of discrimination I do not have the energy all the time — especially during a pandemic — so when folks show their bigotry I tell myself if I don’t feel like it, don’t. Someone else will handle it.

Your feelings will fluctuate during this. Some days you’ll be all for that rightful drag/mess/drama/ect. and others you’ll be extra annoyed and wonder when shit got so bad. When that happens? Remember this thread.

Take care of yourself.