I struggle with calling that cheating. It treads more on rape. A domestic employee, who lives in your home and relies on your income is not an equal partner. What happens when she says no? The relationship is manipulative and rapey. It’s an abuse of power. https://twitter.com/kellysjellys/status/1253765235900665858

If she says no, he will get afraid that she will tell you, so he will get her fired. If she tells you, you will feel threatened and fire her. You’re more likely to fire her than to divorce him. So the ‘relationship’ continues and for as long as you don’t know and she has a job.

And people can meet at work and fall in love, I’m not denying that. When the workplace is an environment as intimate as the home that is a difficult case to make. She is being provided with accommodation, food and an income. She lives with the constant threat of losing all of it.

And sis, if this is happening to you it’s not because she makes amagwinya better than you. It’s more likely that your husband is a rapist.

All that porn you have been watching which has women in aprons and secretaries being fucked by their bosses, is rape fantasy.