my therapist and i had a really good talk today so i spent some time expanding on some ideas he had brought up and as i was writing i’ve come up with this thought and just wanted to share,
“when you get married, the relationship doesn’t change. just the title and your last name.”

no i’m not getting married any time soon but i think it’s important for me to understand that you shouldn’t treat someone differently because of what you call them.

this also applies to friendships! the values you have in a romantic relationship should also translate in your platonic relationships (but obviously u are not getting physically intimate with ur friends bc um cheating is wrong??? do i need to explain)

it’s important that your values are heard and you understand what values you share. if one has a value, you don’t quite understand, TRY TO UNDERSTAND! you don’t have to meet them fully there but instead reach a middle ground. agree to disagree. it takes two!

did anyone ask for this thread? no, but i feel like i’ve been doing really well in therapy lately and just wanted to share a few thoughts i had. because hey maybe it helps.