Thinking about the activist merry go round and my own feelings on slurs that could potentially be directed..Or have been directed at me.

Not sure if I'm going to actually make a thread here but
Content warning-slurs, just incase???

It's super hard for me to understand some of my peers thoughts on language. I understand why people want things to be lessened, I get it and support it. But theres some sort of fundamental disconnect where even words directly used to cause my trauma don't really trigger me.

I've only ever felt /super/ uncomfortable with the word "trap" once, and it has colored my perception of the word, but barely. I just acknowledge and move on, prefer not to use this type of word in conversation if possible, say so in a chat, and then go on.

I've been called retarded too, and the same thing happens, although I'm a bit more stingy about the use of this word. (In part because its not mine...even if it was part of the ridicule I felt back then.)

(And directly contributed to my obsessive issues...)

I dont know if "slut" counts as a slur or not but the word's dark definition is completely lost on me, anybody who uses it negatively is out of my sight...besides my parents, but they in the end hate everything about me so meh

I feel like the N-word has such a strong backing of historical and social community understanding that it's obvious it's a slur. Trap gets close to that. But I've heard some words that get dangerously close to awkward for me, and I just sigh.

(Weeb _espcially_ ), but also stupid too, though that one I can sympathize with...even though I use that word for tremendous positive benefit on my side.

All this is to say, Im extremely uncomfortable with nasty social expectations around language without heavy backing, socially, historically...moralizing language outside of the biggest offenders is something I just cant find myself agreeing with although it depends on the context

And it's hard for me to understand some of the ways people talk about these things. No matter how much the word trap hurt me, and I do kind of wish the use of it was toned down...If people find validation in the term I don't wish to impede that.

That said, a couple things, within reason:
There is no reason private chats and even official locations cannot support word bans even without it being labelled as a slur or anything close to it. People in chats should be allowed to express that level of autonomy in chats and

Thats how I deal with it in my own chat, a constant reminder that I will scrub words clean and forcibly confront people if someone wants a word gone. I want to respect people's autonomy and oppression, and think others should too...But I hesitate large scale word-shaming becuz

Of the pain that can be caused to the marginalized group itself in many cases. That and just a fundamental dislike of moral demands that begin to seep into everything.

Wew this was a long thread, but I'm done now. Back to mon hun.