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I’ve been an online Domme since December, and I was just asked for some tips be a brand-new Domme. Figured I’d put them in a few tweets.
Someone I adore helped me when I first started. I appreciate them SO much. When I made my first few tributes I sent her a tip. DO THAT. Ok...
Someone I adore helped me when I first started. I appreciate them SO much. When I made my first few tributes I sent her a tip. DO THAT. Ok...
Cashapp is lovely. Venmo is owned by PayPal but is ok ime. OnlyFans will let you accept tips on their platform. Indiebill is good for international I’ve heard. Amazon gift cards are fine, but if anyone buys off your wishlist, until that gift is at your door they can reverse it.
PayPal? NOPE. The client can reverse the charges later and pull that money straight out of your bank account. Just don’t use it.
PRICK is personal-responsibility informed consensual kink. RACK is risk-aware consensual kink. SSC is safe sane consensual. PRICK is the newest way of considering safety and understanding risk when playing. Research. Learn. Use.
If someone asks you to do something you’re uncomfortable with, please don’t do it. It’s not worth it. If it goes south it will fucking HAUNT YOU. That being said, you’re probably going to end up doing something or engaging with someone that makes you feel BAD. Learn from it...
Don’t do it again. For instance, foot fetish stuff is pretty harmless. However, after trying it a couple times, I ended up realizing I seriously HATE doing it. It’s now one of my hard limits. Weird? Oh well. I’m not doing it. It’s my choice. I’m in charge of my time and body.
Someone is going to be an asshole at some point, I promise. I’ve been called all sorts of terrible names. People will tell you not to take it to heart, and they’re right, but it’s HARD sometimes! Give yourself time. Connect with your supports. Be gentle with yourself.
When I first started, I got really really into Twitter in a way that was bad for me. I was spending WAY too much time and energy making content and engaging and tweeting. We all have our limits. I eventually took literally 2 days to myself and it was like the sun came out...
Take breaks. Don’t make this your entire life.
The crazy thing is, I got so wrapped up in it! When I took that break, my phone went almost silent after 24 hours. A few people checked in on me, but otherwise? The world kept spinning. It’s ok to take breaks. You should.
The crazy thing is, I got so wrapped up in it! When I took that break, my phone went almost silent after 24 hours. A few people checked in on me, but otherwise? The world kept spinning. It’s ok to take breaks. You should.
Speaking of making content... MAKE CONTENT. We’ll all eventually see someone using the exact same photos and videos and tweets over and over, and I’ve totally done that. Guilty. But you want people to see fresh stuff on your page. Speaking of fresh stuff all the time...
There’s a lovely feature Twitter has called DRAFTS. Save as draft (push cancel) is at the top every time you are writing a tweet. If you’re on a goddamn roll creating content, try to save a bunch as drafts to send out later. You’ll thank yourself when you’re having a dry spell.
Build up your community. Other Dom/mes and SWers are by and large really incredible people that you’d be blessed to call your friends. Don’t engage in drama. Do engage in kindness and uplifting comments and spreading love and joy. I started some shit once out of pure jealousy...
And I IMMEDIATELY regretted it. I felt like SHIT. Just don’t do it. If you don’t agree with how someone runs their page, keep scrolling.
Obviously, there are exceptions: anything involving kids, crossing consent lines, etc.- BLOCK AND REPORT. Twitter has a form for...
Obviously, there are exceptions: anything involving kids, crossing consent lines, etc.- BLOCK AND REPORT. Twitter has a form for...
Outside of that stuff, don’t kink shame. If someone approaches you to do something you’re not into, politely decline and if possible, send them to someone you know who’s into that kink who you know that sub can trust.
Watch yourself with blackmail play. Do some research into ways to safely do it if that’s your thing. It probably involves a contract. If something goes to shit, I know that in my state there’s a $150,000 fine and up to 3 years in prison. So that’s a hard limit for me. Watch it.
Consider your limits. Like really think about them. Stick to your guns.
Don’t shy away from befriending subs. A lot of folks are just as awesome as the Dom/mes and SWers mentioned earlier. They’re just people. Really.
Speaking of subs, DON’T FUCKING POACH.
If a sub is owned, don’t try to steal them away. It’s gross, disrespectful, and sad to see. You’re not that damn desperate, don’t act like it.
(On that note, pet peeve: you don’t NEED jack shit, you WANT it.)
If a sub is owned, don’t try to steal them away. It’s gross, disrespectful, and sad to see. You’re not that damn desperate, don’t act like it.
(On that note, pet peeve: you don’t NEED jack shit, you WANT it.)
You’re flawed.
Guess what.
It’s ok! You’re accepted here AS YOU ARE. We’re all flawed and weird and cool and kinky and all that.
Put your true personality on your page, your Onlyfans, wherever. People want to know YOU. They get off on YOU.
Case in point: I’m some kind of...
Guess what.
It’s ok! You’re accepted here AS YOU ARE. We’re all flawed and weird and cool and kinky and all that.
Put your true personality on your page, your Onlyfans, wherever. People want to know YOU. They get off on YOU.
Case in point: I’m some kind of...
like artsy punk vintage weirdo with funny glasses, fun makeup, a fat body, bright hair, tattoos, a loud laugh, a mouth like a sailor, etc., and people fucking like me.
I’m not liked everywhere, especially in rural areas lol, but like... I have friends here. I have subs here.
I’m not liked everywhere, especially in rural areas lol, but like... I have friends here. I have subs here.
I know this is all over the place. Oh well.Don’t approach a sub by calling them a tiny-dicked loser piece of shit beta trash monkey. Or whatever.
1) not all subs are into degradation.
2) that sub is not your sub to degrade.
3) I’ve done it. I was a lil baby Domme. Sorry
Ok summary time because I’m almost out of tweets:
Be kind.
Be respectful.
Be adamant about your boundaries- your time, your body, your mind? THEY’RE YOURS.
Be patient.
Be you. (You’re cool.)
Never stop learning. Take breaks when you need them. Lean on/support your community.
Be kind.
Be respectful.
Be adamant about your boundaries- your time, your body, your mind? THEY’RE YOURS.
Be patient.
Be you. (You’re cool.)
Never stop learning. Take breaks when you need them. Lean on/support your community.
Other Dom/mes, add your tips below if you have a moment, por favor!
Tiny baby Dom/mes, take the advice you get- learn from others’ mistakes, and listen up if they’re kind enough to help you.
I hope this lengthy piece of tweet ridiculousness is somewhat helpful! Love y’all!
Tiny baby Dom/mes, take the advice you get- learn from others’ mistakes, and listen up if they’re kind enough to help you.
I hope this lengthy piece of tweet ridiculousness is somewhat helpful! Love y’all!
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(Omg please don’t judge any typos, writing on here in consecutive tweets is a BITCH)
