y& #39;know, I thought that when I moved out? I had escaped this kind of narcissistic gaslighting.

And you might say "don& #39;t pay any attention to it"...

ok, let& #39;s put aside for a moment that my work requires that I not only pay attention to it, but that I try, as best anyone can, to fight it. let& #39;s ignore that for a moment.

he& #39;s preventing me from getting medical care I need

i care about other people – i think, fundamentally, that& #39;s what separates us from them. and so I can& #39;t just ignore it - i can& #39;t ignore the pain and suffering he& #39;s gratuitously inflicting on others.

but i think it& #39;s also important to recognize, that for some of us, too many of us, abusive assholes like this are why we couldn& #39;t do things like access medically necessary care when we were subject to their control