People like to create problems and misery for themselves here.

You will never ever be happy if you’re constantly comparing yourself to other people and how you THINK they live their lives.

Nothing anyone does for you will ever be enough because you’re not enough for yourself.

People log on here everyday and start comparing themselves to others. UNPROVOKED.

Comparing your partner to other people’s partners. Comparing your relationship to how you PERCEIVE other people’s relationships to be.

Lapho it’s literally all in your head. You’re not even sure.

If your partner is not enough for you, if the best that they can give you and what they do for you from a genuine place is not good enough for you, then leave them.

Go and find the person who is good enough for you.

I can guarantee though, as long as you don’t know how to be content and grateful, as long as you measure your happiness against other people’s, nothing and I do mean NOTHING anyone ever does for you will ever be enough.

NOTHING.

Your partner could buy you the latest Mercedes Benz and you’ll be miserable as soon as you find out that your friend’s partner bought them a private jet.

Why? Because you think life is a competition.

And the thing about people who compete is that they compete with their own imaginations and then project that as reality.

Karen’s might be miserable in her relationship, but because her man buys her designer shoes and purses, you think oh she MUST be better than you.

The other thing about people who compete is that bayathakatha.

Competing is a form of witchcraft. You can’t compete without being envious.

You can never be genuinely happy for other people because you always think whatever good thing they have you MUST have too.

Ubuthakathi.

Teach yourself gratitude.
Teach yourself how to be content with what you have and can afford.

Learn to be genuinely happy for people you think are doing better than you without being envious of them.

So many are MISERABLE because of their own witchcraft. You literally block your own happiness and blessings because of jealousy and envy.

Check yourselves. Work on yourselves. Be better.

Pray for your heart.

Ezinye i’nhliziyo zenu zingcolile. Zimnyama.

My favorite thing about people who like to compete is that they ALWAYS compare themselves to people who aren’t even in their league.

Y’all always pick people who are not even on your level and compare yourselves to them.

Inokuhlanya phakathi lento yenu.