CW: sexual assault

I think a lot about that time a woman spoke out about Aziz Ansari's actions with her being sexual assault, and how differently those two ppl viewed their interactions. It's easy to call out obviously shitty people. The grey area is more insidious though.

Is this a shitty person who does good things, or a good person who did a shitty thing? Both? Are they worth calling out? What good does it do to call their behavior out? Does that one moment of harm that I encountered outweigh the perceived good this person does?

How do I trust anyone who seems to be friendly like them? Did I overreact to the situation? What if I'm not the only one that felt this uncomfortable or violated?

The more celebrity, or social capital, a person has, the harder it is to see their actions as being systematically wrong. The harder it is to say they're not worth your time or support.

All I can say, esp on this social platform, is do not equate someone's game design, ability to market themselves or their friends, or tweets of social justice to their personality and irl actions. Their online persona & behaviors face to face are not always the same.