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THREAD on my experience with Alexis/ @SakythiaCos : I just want to share my experience so others can be aware that predators/manipulators in the cosplay community donāt just have a certain look to them. This will be lengthy.
I met Alexis through a mutual friend at AWA 2018. We were cordial with one another via DMs on Twitter prior to meeting in person. Our first weekend meeting each other irl she (drunkenly) confessed to having a crush on me some time ago. I didnāt really acknowledge it because ...
1) It was sudden/I wasnāt expecting it+wouldnāt know how to respond to it anyways because I was still figuring out myself in terms of my gender identity+my romantic/sexual orientation.
2) Alexis was enamored with another mutual at the time @vulpinebones as she has told me.
2) Alexis was enamored with another mutual at the time @vulpinebones as she has told me.
AWA weekend passed and we are coming up to Katsu. Itās my first Katsucon. My initial room fell apart so I roomed with Alexis and her friends at the Gaylord. Katsu was the farthest Iāve ever been from home for a con so I was quite nervous+I was rooming with basically strangers.
I only knew one person in that room which was Alexis but I figured that was fine cause I considered her a friend. Prior to Katsu I helped her with her crush, gave advice on how to pursue them even if it was getting...obsessive because I genuinely wanted her to be happy.
Alexis was already acting a little off putting pre-Katsu in regards to her feelings about Ren and how she was treating her friends because of that and she was aware of that so she apologized.
Katsucon ā19 arrived and due to not getting the attention she felt was adequate from her crush at Katsu on Friday night in the 21+ club. It prompted a response from Alexis that was violent, overwhelming and emotionally manipulative.
Alexis was ready to physically assault a mutual for kissing her crush+Iād never been in a situation like that before so a friend+I tried to get her out of the club environment but she refused. It resulted in a very long+emotionally intense dialogue in a very public setting
After the club we went back to our room and Alexis said that we āhad to talkā the conversation was Alexis crying+unloading on me emotionally about everything from her feelings about Ren to her (unrequited) feelings about me+being upset I didnāt ātrustā her.
I wasnāt prepared for any of this,It was nearing 5AM+at that point I just wanted to do whatever made her feel better to quell her emotionally aggressive behavior which resulted in me being coerced into a sexual situation with her+Ren that I had never prepared for.
After Katsu I was very uncomfortable/unsettled with everything that happened+how it happened+I messaged Alexis privately to talk about it and after a few replies she left me on read (even after a double text)
More screenshots of the whole conversation for transparency sake with certain names taken out for privacy. (Again Iām sorry itās lengthy but I just wanna post the WHOLE conversation and be 100% transparent)
This is the end of our conversation post Katsu as she stopped replying to me even after a double text so there was nothing I could really do to continue this conversation. Her saying she didnāt āregret anything we didā made me feel like I had no reason to regret it (but I did)
What prompted me messaging her SakuraCon weekend was hearing that sheād brought up my name to co-sign a negative opinion she had about a mutual of hers. It upset me cause at this point Alexis had more or less ghosted me post Katsu with no real reply to me trying to reach out
This mutual of hers that Alexis used my opinion to co-sign her trash talk is someone she was also crushing on but started to resent because the feelings were unrequited. So knowing she was using my unrelated sentiments about them to trash talk was upsetting. I was hurt
TW//Suicide mention. Alexis brings up that she āalmost committed suicideā in her response to me. I was unaware. That was something I wasnāt privy to and it was jarring.
I change my tone because I felt bad that the first time learning that my friend at the time had āalmost committed suicideā is when Iām trying to get clarity on certain things but I still do point out the inaccuracies. (āLoveā by the way is used in a completely platonic way here)
In this series of texts Alexis states āI am not a person that is constantly texting and messaging friends and thatās just who I amā which before Katsu was not true pertaining to us as we had a group chat we all talked in almost daily.
Alexis then says I didnāt reach out to her personally after Katsu when that is not true (as shown in previous text messages in the thread) I double texted Alexis+she just didnāt respond. Again, I point out these contradictions in my reply+she apologizes+admits sheās wrong
At this point Iām feeling bad so I just once again ask Alexis what she wants us to do as friends. Even though at the beginning of the conversation I stated that this was for me to get peace of mind but by the end of it I was trying to give her peace of mind.
Alexis and I didnāt really interact much after this but I soft blocked her from my private account to set that boundary. I was back to being cordial with Alexis through our interactions on Twitter cause Iām trying to ārepair our friendshipā but itās all in vain post Fanime.
You can hear more about Fanime in Rens thread @vulpinebones because itās more personal to him and I was not in attendance. Post Fanime is when I heard Alexis had been saying very shocking things about me to a mutual friend who was just trying to set boundaries with her.
My friend sent me this+let Alexis know that he sent it to me which caused Alexis to DM me first. Claiming she was āblinded by loveā ,bringing up her grandmas battle with Alzheimerās+telling me she had to watch her mom die of cancer at the age of 9.
Alexisā claims that she āwasnāt talking to anyoneāwere found to be untrue as she was in constant communication w/ @vulpinebones during those times where she was not talking to me at all. She also mentions her suicide attempt to me Again. The tries to police my impending reaction.
It didnāt work. I, once again, addressed her contradictions+told her I wanted nothing to do with her. I canāt post the full convo cause my reply was lengthy I reached my thread limit but this was the core of it. I blocked her+she has been blocked ever since on all my socials.
