Read on Twitter
1/ Thread below from some of Mel's friends.
Mel was one of the first people I came out to. To my knowledge, once I came out, sie never once got my pronouns wrong. That's unusual and amazing, particularly because I know she worked at this *way* more than most people would. https://twitter.com/RutiRegan/status/1253382473872019456
Mel was one of the first people I came out to. To my knowledge, once I came out, sie never once got my pronouns wrong. That's unusual and amazing, particularly because I know she worked at this *way* more than most people would. https://twitter.com/RutiRegan/status/1253382473872019456
2/ But *MEL* saw gender completely differently than I do, at least as far as her relationship (or lack of) with it.
PLEASE DO NOT TRY TO CORRECT PEOPLE WHO WERE CLOSE TO MEL AND USE SHE/HER. Mel absolutely would not want that.
PLEASE DO NOT TRY TO CORRECT PEOPLE WHO WERE CLOSE TO MEL AND USE SHE/HER. Mel absolutely would not want that.
3/ Also, I used she/her sometimes with Mel. I don't do that with my trans friends - I try to use their pronoun preference. But Mel was not one of my trans friends. Mel was Mel. And Mel had no relationship with Gender. Don't force one upon Mel!
4/ Want to honor Mel? If gender is important to someone, respect that. If someone tells you they are genderless? Respect that too. And don't try to fit Mel to any narrative. It won't fit. That's a huge part of why I miss Mel.
5/ Mel was, more than anyone else in my life, was honest, in ways most of us aren't. And that was refreshing, and I cherish how I was inspired to be a bit more honest because of her. That said, I don't think sie would have said sie was honest. Again, Mel was Mel.
