1/ Thread below from some of Mel& #39;s friends.

Mel was one of the first people I came out to. To my knowledge, once I came out, sie never once got my pronouns wrong. That& #39;s unusual and amazing, particularly because I know she worked at this *way* more than most people would. https://twitter.com/RutiRegan/status/1253382473872019456">https://twitter.com/RutiRegan...

2/ But *MEL* saw gender completely differently than I do, at least as far as her relationship (or lack of) with it.

PLEASE DO NOT TRY TO CORRECT PEOPLE WHO WERE CLOSE TO MEL AND USE SHE/HER. Mel absolutely would not want that.

3/ Also, I used she/her sometimes with Mel. I don& #39;t do that with my trans friends - I try to use their pronoun preference. But Mel was not one of my trans friends. Mel was Mel. And Mel had no relationship with Gender. Don& #39;t force one upon Mel!

4/ Want to honor Mel? If gender is important to someone, respect that. If someone tells you they are genderless? Respect that too. And don& #39;t try to fit Mel to any narrative. It won& #39;t fit. That& #39;s a huge part of why I miss Mel.

5/ Mel was, more than anyone else in my life, was honest, in ways most of us aren& #39;t. And that was refreshing, and I cherish how I was inspired to be a bit more honest because of her. That said, I don& #39;t think sie would have said sie was honest. Again, Mel was Mel.