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Lately I’m thinking a lot about mistakes. And learning. And doing better. And how despite our attempts to do that, people will still not let us. We do things, inherently wrong things even if it may not seem that way to us. Guaranteed, someone will feel the need to correct us. +
im not going to talk about how hard it is to admit that one is wrong. It’s supposed to be hard, that’s part of growth. It’s hard so that you learn not to do it again. I’m mostly thinking about how hard it is to move forward when others insist on being hurtful to you.
Because that doesn’t encourage growth. It shuts people down. Why isn’t it enough that the person apologised and fixes their mistake? Why can’t it be enough for you that you taught them a lesson? Why do people have to shame others for a mistake they’ve already learned from?
I’ve done, we’ve all done, some wrong or slightly problematic things because we didn’t know any better. We’re learning. We’re obligated to learn. In turn, we’re obligated to point out each other’s wrongs and say “Don’t do that, it’s not cool.”
But there are kinder ways to do it.
But there are kinder ways to do it.
If you know you did the wrong thing, have tried to fix it, understand why you did wasn’t good and are trying to do better, good on you. I think Crowley would be proud of you.
If you called someone out for doing the wrong thing, shame them for trying to fix it, act like none of their apologies are good enough and block off any of their attempts to do better, well.
Aziraphale would be disappointed in you.
Aziraphale would be disappointed in you.
I’ve done things I didn’t know were toxic, problematic or all the words people like to use. It’s been hard to swallow it down, but I know better now. So I know a genuine apology when I see it. And I know when the consequence of that mistake isn’t just natural,
but compounded on by others’ thoughts and opinions.
I honestly don’t know what else to say on this topic. I know things can be a lot more complex than this, and context is always needed. If you don’t want to forgive someone, fine, you have a right to stay mad.
I honestly don’t know what else to say on this topic. I know things can be a lot more complex than this, and context is always needed. If you don’t want to forgive someone, fine, you have a right to stay mad.
But I don’t see the point of creating more drama if the person is genuinely trying to make things right.
I hope this tiny thread/mini rant has taught you something, although it’s far from my job to educate people on Twitter.
I hope this tiny thread/mini rant has taught you something, although it’s far from my job to educate people on Twitter.
Fact remains that there are still some of us who just don’t know better.
But that doesn’t make us incapable of learning.
But that doesn’t make us incapable of learning.
