Your simple question has been rattling around in my head for days now, and I think I finally have an answer to how at least my wife and I have been able to guide and lead our children to be able to chose the right way

We surround them in it https://twitter.com/goodforharriers/status/1252024535714426880

From early on, we surrounded them in things that are better for them, so when they reach out to choose something, they’ll have a better chance of choosing right

When they’re really young, obviously you’re going to choose what they wear, what they eat, what toys they play with, what music they listen to, what books they read (or what we read to them), who is allowed near them, etc

But where we guide is when we begin to let them decide

We would give them simple choices, do you want this snack or this snack? They get to choose the snack, but we were still offering a good snack. This toy or this toy? They choose, but we offer.

By surrounding them with good, they learn to choose good. Surrounding is also modeling for them what is good. It’s not just that we don’t do what we want them NOT to do; we do what we want them TO do. And we tell them this “WE do this. This is what WE do”.

When I talk of what WE do, I also use phrases like “your family”, “our family”, “your people”, “our people”

It gives them a sense of belonging. It’s a “peer pressure” in the positive direction. A sense of ownership and identity. “This is what we are, and who you are”

We show them beautiful things. We fill our home with beautiful decorations, paint our walls, add aesthetic trim and embellishments. We fill our gardens with flowers and trees. When we listen to music, we put on classical. We do these things so to them it’s what’s normal.

So when our daughter wants to pick out artwork for her wall, she chooses what is normal and beautiful to her, as someone who has been in ballet since she was 3 years old

Or my son, who we already knew was very mathematical and up in his head but could use a physical outlet that could utilize that talent, chose piano

I’m not saying this will work 100% of the time, nor will 100% prevent them from one day being lured by all the degeneracy of the outside world, but if we can model and surround them with a standard that they feel is normal, that crap will look abnormal.

Our best is when we show them what TO do vs telling them what NOT to do. Showing them what’s good of them, their people, their world (like @oloiux @of_europa @Trad_West_Art and the like), and maybe along the way when we see degeneracy say “we don’t do that”

Offer your children something better than what the degenerate world has to offer. You HAVE to believe they’ll choose the better option. And if you teach them early on to make the better choice, they’ll do it when you’re not looking and have no control over them

I showed my two older kids this video this morning. Mouths wide open with awe and inspiration.

https://twitter.com/___________45th/status/1252771888171896833?s=21 https://twitter.com/___________45th/status/1252771888171896833