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How to overcome Hyper-Sensitivity!
___One of the common problems of social life is the sensitivity that many of us have against people’s comments or attitudes towards us. Suppose you have a very abrupt classmate who makes sharp comments on your personal issues...!
ﾂHow to overcome Hyper-Sensitivity!
___One of the common problems of social life is the sensitivity that many of us have against people’s comments or attitudes towards us. Suppose you have a very abrupt classmate who makes sharp comments on your personal issues...!
How can we deal with people around us whose comments hurt?
1. Revenge: one of the most common reactions to hurtful comments is to get them back. Tit for tat. Spite doesn’t solve the problem, it worsens it.
2. Ignore it: Hazrat Ali (as) Says...
1. Revenge: one of the most common reactions to hurtful comments is to get them back. Tit for tat. Spite doesn’t solve the problem, it worsens it.
2. Ignore it: Hazrat Ali (as) Says...
If (could) endure the patience of noble people, otherwise pretend the heedlessness of the beasts.”
Although ignoring often works, there is a limit to which you can ignore the person. Once it hits the threshold you blow up and may react with a severe revenge.
Although ignoring often works, there is a limit to which you can ignore the person. Once it hits the threshold you blow up and may react with a severe revenge.
3. Desensitization. In medicine there is a method to reduce or eliminate an organism’s negative reaction to a substance or stimulus. This method is called desensitization. For example, if a person with diabetes mellitus has a bad allergic reaction to take a full dose of beef
beef insulin; his doctor gives him a very small amount of the insulin at first.
Over a period of time,larger doses are given until the person is taking the full dose. Vaccination is another form of desensitization. Therefore desensitization is the technique of making an organism
Over a period of time,larger doses are given until the person is taking the full dose. Vaccination is another form of desensitization. Therefore desensitization is the technique of making an organism
less sensitive.
5) Desensitization is a cognitive therapy. Most of mental pains or pleasures have in fact internal causes. The best way to deal with people’s unpleasant comments is to desensitize yourself against their comments. The following are some methods of desensitization:
5) Desensitization is a cognitive therapy. Most of mental pains or pleasures have in fact internal causes. The best way to deal with people’s unpleasant comments is to desensitize yourself against their comments. The following are some methods of desensitization:
4) Be optimistic: Most people are not sadists and don’t have any evil intentions for what they say or do. It is often our assumption that brands a speech or attitude negative. For instance,a mother whose daughter has been sick for quite a long time had become sensitive to people
asking her about her daughter. As a result she went into isolation.
In a short consultation she managed to realise that people’s inquiries are in fact a sign of their concern to pray for her or offer any assistance. Of course, often people don’t have the best choice of words to.
In a short consultation she managed to realise that people’s inquiries are in fact a sign of their concern to pray for her or offer any assistance. Of course, often people don’t have the best choice of words to.
express their concern in the manner, but rest assured that they are sincere. Thus, we should judge them for their good intention.
For this reason negative assumption is considered a mortal sin in Islam.
For this reason negative assumption is considered a mortal sin in Islam.
The Almighty Allah says
“O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; indeed some suspicions (negative assumptions) are sins….” (the Holy Qur’an 49:12)
5) Justification: We must understand that people’s behaviour is the effect of many factors. The healthy way to deal with.......
“O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; indeed some suspicions (negative assumptions) are sins….” (the Holy Qur’an 49:12)
5) Justification: We must understand that people’s behaviour is the effect of many factors. The healthy way to deal with.......
people’s attitude is to endeavour to find justification for it.
6) Compliance (with someone’s mood): the bottom line is that we are not living in Paradise. As people look different, they also think and behave differently. We cannot possibly expect everyone to behave the way
6) Compliance (with someone’s mood): the bottom line is that we are not living in Paradise. As people look different, they also think and behave differently. We cannot possibly expect everyone to behave the way
7) we are pleased with. Thus, it is very much recommended in Islam to comply with them as much as possible.
It is narrated from the holy Prophet of Islam (S) to have said:
“My Allah commanded me to comply with people as much as He commanded me for obligations”
It is narrated from the holy Prophet of Islam (S) to have said:
“My Allah commanded me to comply with people as much as He commanded me for obligations”
so-called negative comment can create a problem unless the receiver reciprocates it. It is only then that a family quarrel or a clash between two friends begins.Therefore,if one party supposedly makes a mistake and throws an inappropriate comment at you, unless you take revenge!
Soo please try to Spread Smile’s on Sad Faces! Its a Great Job :)
May Allah Protect and forgive us all ameeen!
The End _____
May Allah Protect and forgive us all ameeen!
The End _____
