people feel like they need to explain they aren’t victims or seeking attention when they talk about their pain. i need you to know that invalidating yourself on that level isn’t healthy. being worried about what *other* people think about your pain is useless

it’s not your job to control someone else’s pity. please remember pity involves having COMPASSION. and it is okay for other people to feel bad for your experience, it’s their job what they carry and manage, not your job to filter yourself and act like you aren’t struggling.

speaking out about your pain and wanting people to care about you isn’t weak, suffering in silence is self destructive and more importantly communally detrimental. when you don’t speak out something is boiling. you owe it to yourself to stop feeling like you need to look strong

and also let me tell you this is a strong indicator that you have been gaslit. this kind of language is self invalidating.