I watched the video of that dad beating his son . It’s painful to watch and I can feel the pain of the son

Here are some thoughts.

Let’s just get the mum out of the way ......

Lack of intelligence and wisdom.. that is all
Why are you recording a serious family moment to share ?
Respect your family , respect your privacy . As a mother you watch your kids and your husband , especially in tense moments

Now to the dad . I am in no way supportive of that method of handling such a situation , historically speaking a slap in the face is a shameful and disgracing act of punishment

As a parent in that instance , you encourage and solutionize in that moment . Reassure them and make them believe they can account to something

Slapping your child and reminding them of how much you spent on them is not the wisest means of tackling that kind of issue .
Yes you did spend money , yes you did work hard ... but it’s for your child - it’s an investment not a loss . Your kids are your legacy

Now the kid seems old enough to understand some things in life . If you want to build a working relationship with your kids you’ve got to reason with them to get them to the expected level of understanding

You’ve got to work together with them to set the level of expectation in order for them to take responsibility for certain areas of their lives . This comes by understanding and by relationship building ( not to say they didn’t have one )

Many of us that are of African descent may have experienced this in one way shape or form. Some have become Toxically competitive, many develop resentment for parents , many long for acceptance in the wrong place , many rebel , many feel rejected and so much more

This is where we can learn from mistakes and turn the tide with our generation , if we are ready to learn and commit to being better and growing everyday !

Lastly I want to say this to balance things.

Parents are humans too and have also been subject to life , pain , trauma, pressure, abuse , rejection, setbacks and much more. Many of them were nurtured dysfunctionally and can only parent the way their parents treated them

It’s very easy to throw rocks at parents .... wrong actions are never justified but understanding can shift your perspective that you may not be the only victim . Your parents may be victims too.

It’s very easy to comment and share your opinion but by the way some people tweet on this app , I can’t say that I have the greatest confidence for some ( not that I am the shining example for everyone)

If anything what many are displaying is a need for counselling because bleeding on the TL only proves one thing . You need to get help otherwise when it’s your time , in the right conditions you will find yourself replicating what you were subjected to and more