"You both need to embrace your gender. Fully. Deeply. And then, when you put in the work, you can go out and demand from the other to meet your needs." ~ @selfconquering

There is a lot of truth in this not often talked about. I like this take, but have another thought..

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Men are made through their achievements, their competence, their ability to turn frame into results, penetrating the world and building value

BUT, is a beautiful woman merely existing enough as a form of “value”

~ I think not, but what do YOU need above aesthetics alone?

When a woman really wants to be with you, she'll go to great lengths to make that happen

She'll risk an awful lot to be with a man who's

Dangerous,
Bold,
Competent,
& Dominant

.. And the chance to be all hers, fighting against her reasoning for a man she sees value in

When she's incentivized, she will go out of her way to invest for you because women only value what they work for

This is true for day 1 or day 1,001

Her wanting to please you and finding ways to invest through sweat (and maybe) tears for you will keep the relationship strong

Understand this

But understand also that this isn't license to run pathetic 'asshole' game

Don’t take this as an absolute and think it's okay become needy thinking you're immediately "the prize"

But on the other hand, it is crucial that you have an agenda and get something of substance from a beautiful woman in your life

If she’s not constantly investing then both sides will lose out

Figure out how she fits into your life and where the value exchange starts and stops

This isn't a transaction, this is life, but breaking it down to a molecular level is actually the foundation of healthy relationships

Here’s the reality for you both:

if you’re not getting anything out of her,

you won’t be motivated to keep demonstrating your value to her

This can be a sure fire way to check out of an LTR

So work out what that is, what's that X factor from her, only YOU can determine what fits in your life

h/t - @selfconquering for the article

"So you both become a better version of yourself. Each day" https://selfconquering.com/women-are-men-become-is-bullshit/