My parents hit us growing up and tbh I love my mum and I know she loves me but I don’t think I’m as close to her as I should be. I could be going through the worst here in Canada and it will never click for me to share it with my mum, I’m just not open to her about anything and

That caused a lot of problems for me cause there’s so much that I dealt with alone that I didn’t have to. I went back to Naij in 2018 and I had issues with my visa so I technically couldn’t return to Canada, this is something that my mum will fix in a matter of days if I tell her

But it still didn’t occur to me to tell her until I had no other choice but to, she complained that I always try to do things myself without sharing, if I didn’t fix my r-ship with my mum when I was a teenager, you can’t just magically expect me to grow up and confide in her

Anyway, people got beat up and say they turned out fine but you may not even know a toxic behaviour/ way of thinking you exhibit is a result of that. And maybe you indeed turned out fine, but am I willing to take that risk with my own kid? That maybe they will/won’t turn out ok ?