I don't believe my support system to be strong enough and this is all by my own doing. I had no option but to start over.

Rebuilding it as a reserved single black 27yo woman is quite challenging.

I'd go into the details of why my self-preservation, singlehood, blackness, age and, gender play a role in my inability to find a community and build strong bonds but, I'm sure you already know.

I seem to be doing myself a huge injustice by being detached from my social media persona as well.

I've only ever half committed to any possible friendships (and relationships) that could start here. I definitely approach with willingness but, conclude that you're a stranger and it's weird.

This can be attested to by quite a few people. I know.

This has just been on my mind, lately. Obviously encouraged by the current circumstance as well. It has just been on my mind.

I'm also not sure if I'm interested in actively being there for anyone new, either.

My big brain is telling me that I'm just experiencing a very human need for attachment and it does not mean that I have to kick into fixer mode and make it happen. I'm very solution-oriented and this is always the default.

Anyway, this thread was just me thinking out loud as well as letting whoever may be facing the same issue see that they aren't alone.