Until women stop viewing sex as something that is "given to" a man and "taken from" a woman,rather than something shared between two consenting adults,sex esp casual Will always give you a sense of loss and regret rather than the desired satisfaction.

That's what fuels your need to justify it, either in your head or out loud. Phrases like "you used me" should never exist. Your decision to have sex with someone should not be tied to your expectations of them but rather of yourself.