Moving on from that red flag, i'm friends with another one who has been with his partner for years. We first met at a launch event at salesforce where my colleague introduced us to one another.

I had to leave so I hugged him and he said "Oh wow you give great hugs!" Score!

I didn't get to see him physically until I saw him queuing up for the clinic. I was bringing over my hazelnut milk tea with herbal jelly and he flipped when I told him my drink - he likes the EXACT same drink too! We clicked even further.

After he was done I walked him out and had a HTHT - he opened up about his newfound bisexuality while I opened up about my condition.

He asked "Are you flirting with me?" To which I replied immediately "Yes". He laughed as he appreciates my honesty and we made out. SCORE!

We exchanged numbers, flirted more, and arranged our first "date". I've been stalking his social media for a while and I saw that he's attached. I probed about his love life, learning how he and his partner met and how they've been anchors for each other. Damn sweet la pls!

Surprisingly, I was ok. I like what I have now with him and he does too. He was saying how we would have been an item if he had not met his current bf to which I retorted;

We would have been two very different people than who we are right now so I'd rather us to be this way.

We keep in contact once in a while (because boundaries). My happiness for him is to see him grow and be a better version of himself every time we meet. It doesn't matter if he's not mine; maybe some time in the future.

For now I want to be like how Tomoyo is to Sakura - his #2.

I want to be there for him when I can. I want to see him smile when we are together again. All from a distance.

I think I might have discovered what love is from all this.