If you are in this queue, kindly don’t take this as not being loved equally as others. Take it as a mantle of leadership. Interpret is as not being given training wheels even when others kids sport theirs. You’ll always turn out better & you’ll be glad you were spared the spoils. https://twitter.com/grace_undiluted/status/1253047262219046914

You see, I’m the last of 4 children. When my siblings were in school, my parents got them a house help and sent soups and stews to their hostels. When they graduated there was a party at school and at home to commemorate the event. But guess what...

...when I gained admission (eventually), I was virtually on my own. I’m not blaming anyone though, I wouldn’t have had it another way. My graduation was as quiet as the current quarantine for both institutions and I was top of my class in both. We didn’t even play cassette.

I never beat myself up or felt adopted. I took it as the price of leadership. I would have hated my life if I was complaint or stuck in any office doing the next thing as planned out by my parents. I charted my own course and was comfortable being my own insurer. It works.

My siblings are all successful in their own rights and there’s no competition about who lives better. Despite the fact that you could fit a village in between us all due to spacing, we all have deep regards/respect for each other. I’ve never been treated like a little brother.

I may not have any graduation picture showing me in a gown sandwiched between my parents, both my dignity, integrity and purpose are intact and the world can testify to value of my education as it impacts and influence society. This is what counts. So snap out of the self pity.

If U watch closely, most of the folks that got pampered end up being compliant. They most often see the World revolving around them. People like us that learnt the hard way to friend ourselves often end up saving the world. Ask Steve Jobs. Let the parents be. They’ll come around.

None of my parents ever visited my schools for all my years through Polytechnic and University. They never worry about getting me a job because I created all the jobs I’ve been in even before I left university. They never fasted for me to get VISA. I got an invite as a Tech.

My steps were ordered because there is a bigger father living in my heart of whom His epistle you are all reading right now. We all must learn to flap our wings even when there is no safety net below. This is how we become a Warrior. Thank your parents for this as I do mine.