Money isn't real. It's a social construct. Some people hate it, and live without it. Some people are traumatized by it. Some people want to burn it all. Some people love it, especially when they have a lot of it.
It still has a lot of power, even though it's not real and hated.1/

It's obviously a thing to refer to, if you have money you can say it's not real all you want but at the end of the day you're still gonna be able to afford food and shelter.
I think this is sort of my confusion with nonbinary stuff. They say gender isn't real, is a social-

construct. Maybe they've been traumatized by it, want to exist outside of it. This sounds fine, legitimate, valid, I get it.
But gender, like money, affects you in real, concrete ways, regardless of your relationship to it.

Saying you're not a woman feels like insisting you don't have money. Like, I understand you believe that, and I understand your relationship to money is different than mine, but at the end of the day the practical effects from this giant social illusion *still exists*.

To me, I process gender as something close to the "practical effects from this giant social illusion." I think I process nonbinary identities as "expression of distaste for, trauma from, or feeling trapped by this social illusion." Both of these categories seem valid to me.