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Awful dating advice?
People who tell you to hide parts of who you are to attract others, are giving you unrealistic advice.
For one, you start off the relationship lying.
Secondly, why date someone who wouldn’t like who you are?
Thirdly, you can’t keep up the pretense.
People who tell you to hide parts of who you are to attract others, are giving you unrealistic advice.
For one, you start off the relationship lying.
Secondly, why date someone who wouldn’t like who you are?
Thirdly, you can’t keep up the pretense.
Your romantic relationships should mirror the best parts of your platonic and familial relationships.
We all prefer to be around people we can be ourselves with, who don’t judge us for some of our choices, but who also want the best for us in terms of our growth.
We all prefer to be around people we can be ourselves with, who don’t judge us for some of our choices, but who also want the best for us in terms of our growth.
When your relationship begins with you hiding bits of yourself for approval, you remove a percentage of honesty that will inevitably become an obstacle as time goes by.
You will find yourself stressed and resentful of the cage you painted yourself into.
You will find yourself stressed and resentful of the cage you painted yourself into.
Also, if you decide to just drop all pretense in the middle of the relationship to be yourself because you have succeeded at your goal.
You have lied to someone and made them have to deal with behaviors they would have preferred not to.
How will that ever be healthy?
You have lied to someone and made them have to deal with behaviors they would have preferred not to.
How will that ever be healthy?
If the plan was to lure them in first, before making your big reveal after they have been 
tricked, how are you not a villainous character in their life? Why are you shocked when they start pulling away from you and not “liking you for you”.
You lied.
tricked, how are you not a villainous character in their life? Why are you shocked when they start pulling away from you and not “liking you for you”. You lied.
It’s much better to be rejected early for being who you are, than being in a relationship with someone who wouldn’t want the real you.
A life of pretense is unrealistic to live, and unfair to the person who you manipulated into a relationship with you.
A life of pretense is unrealistic to live, and unfair to the person who you manipulated into a relationship with you.
My advice is to always seek relationships that encourage you to even be more authentic.
You should feel free to be yourself to the fullest capacity.
A good relationship inspires you to improve yourself, it wants to see you become the very best version of you.
You should feel free to be yourself to the fullest capacity.
A good relationship inspires you to improve yourself, it wants to see you become the very best version of you.
Finding out early how potential lovers react to the real you, cuts down so much time spent on future misunderstandings.
My motto is to live an easy life, and sometimes we complicate things by finding it normal to love people, who prefer a different person than we are.
My motto is to live an easy life, and sometimes we complicate things by finding it normal to love people, who prefer a different person than we are.
