Making thread about the burden called reputation every Desi woman has to carry.

More often than not, a Desi family or community’s reputation is said to depend on their women.

If a woman speaks her mind, she’s ruining someone’s reputation by having a voice.

If a woman doesn’t gain or lose weight, she’s ruining someone’s reputation by embracing her body type.

If a woman wears or doesn’t wear makeup she’s ruining someone’s reputation by being proud of a face that was put together with tons of thought.

If a woman chooses her career over marriage, she’s ruining someone’s reputation by knowing what she wants for herself.

If a woman leaves a relationship, she’s ruining someone’s reputation by putting her wellbeing before someone’s abuse.

These are just a FEW of the examples of how the Desi community’s construct of reputation affects its’ women.

They said it’s their reputation that’s being affected. I say that their reputation is untouched.

Every woman has the freedom to decide her identity and reputation.

It’s not up to society.
It’s not up to a significant other.
It’s not up to parents or siblings.

A woman’s reputation is a woman’s right.