I don’t know how I can better explain that turning something into “it’s cause I’m a bad parent” is the WORST thing to say when your child comes to you with a problem? 1. That’s turning the conversation to be ABOUT YOU rather then the one that came to talk about their issue (1/?)

2. That makes it so the kid is now trying to console YOU instead of u consoling them! 3. Even if it WAS because you fell short as a parent that is not what they are talking about right now. Nor are they saying that (most likely) most of the time the issue isn’t because of u (2/?)

4. It seems like your basically invalidating their feelings and opinion because it’s suddenly back to being about you falling short. Listen to THEM before instantly blaming yourself. Sometimes they just need to talk! Not throw blame! (3/?)

Sometimes you just need to work through things verbally to get through it. So try just seeing them as a full human as well and LISTEN. 5. Talk about your insecurities at a different time. Bring it up. Talk about where you THINK you feel so short. (4/5)

This will and will always be a two way street. Just because they are your child doesn’t mean they don’t deserve to be their own person. (5/5)