Also when judging a man/partner, two things

1. Imperfections that can easily be fixed/substituted/replaced: & #39;he& #39;s dirty& #39; A: employ a cleaner for N20k max a month, dryclean his clothes for N5k max a month, home barber for max N1k per week, problem mostly solved

& #39;She can& #39;t have children& #39; Surrogate mother N300k max for the period, IVF N300k max for the process

Basically, stress less about imperfections and weaknesses that money can solve, or can be substituted for alternatives

& #39;She& #39;s flat chested, she no get yansh& #39; N1.8m at a plastic surgeon (not Dr Anu) can fix that

& #39;He& #39;s ugly& #39;
N80k/no max skin routine can greatly improve that

2. The imperfections you should be worried about/red flags: those that only that person, and that person alone can fix. No amount of money can solve, no alternatives

& #39;He& #39;s a womanizer and thoroughly unfaithful& #39; https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🚩" title="Triangular flag on post" aria-label="Emoji: Triangular flag on post">

& #39;She has a serious anger problem and is constantly shouting at me and insulting my esteem& #39; https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🚩" title="Triangular flag on post" aria-label="Emoji: Triangular flag on post">

& #39;He& #39;s thoroughly lazy. He& #39;s rich because he inherited some money, but that& #39;s where it ends, he& #39;s made no further moves& #39; https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🚩" title="Triangular flag on post" aria-label="Emoji: Triangular flag on post">

& #39;He doesn& #39;t know how to plan or budget for the family needs. Once he gets money spends it all at once. The first weeks after salaries/business deal are great, but we always struggle to gather money for school feed and rent even though he can well afford it& #39; https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🚩" title="Triangular flag on post" aria-label="Emoji: Triangular flag on post">

& #39;She& #39;s always entertaining the entreaties of other men, doesn& #39;t understand what commitment means& #39; https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🚩" title="Triangular flag on post" aria-label="Emoji: Triangular flag on post">

Notice the former are more personality issues, the latter are more character issues? That& #39;s how you decide who to be with and who to drop, within the frame of realistic expectations

But thing like & #39;she does not know how to cook and clean& #39; which a N30k/mo professional maid solves, or & #39;he does not have a car& #39; which his coming N1.7m monthly business income 1 year from now will afford, aren& #39;t the reasons to leave someone if they committed, empathic

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