This isn't news but bumping up against it today and I've worn through my helmet: that while it's ok for male colleagues in tech to say "i don't know" (and actually it's a sign that they're Good, that they know their limits), when I say "i don't know" it means I must know nothing.

Today in various conversations, trying to get into the weeds on Bluetooth-based proximity tracking, I've gotten:
- an explainer of what a CSV is
- asked if i knew what an API was; and
- "here i will use a word technologists would use"... [THE WORD WAS SCALE].

And these are all lovely well meaning people. And I don't know most things. But wow is it making me wonder if i know anything, and whether maybe they're right, that i shouldn't be engaging in technology discussions at all unless i know *everything* (which, reminder: nobody does).