Sometimes I get insecure about sharing posts on FB/insta about domestic violence or emotional abuse. I’m afraid that people will think I’m posting it for the attention. Attention from people who do know my story to be reminded of it, or attention from those that don’t but will

probably assume I have personal experience with it. It’s true that I’m very honest and open about what I went through but that’s not the reason. The reason I share posts about abuse is because they are exactly the kinds of things I needed to hear/read years ago. I’m not saying

that if I had read a post called “10 signs you are a victim of gaslighting” (for example) on my fb timeline years ago that it would have prevented or stopped anything that was happening or would happen. However, I remember being in situations where I was so lost and confused

about the things I was feeling and so unsure of who to talk to about this stuff that I found myself googling things like “what is a red flag” or “how to know if you’re in an abusive relationship” etc. Yes, I had prior knowledge (or conceptions) about abuse but like a lot of

people, I thought that as long as he isn’t physically violent then it’s not abuse. For me, it took him being physical for me to finally get out of the relationship but before that there was so much emotional and mental abuse that I didn’t recognize at first. So that is the reason

to bring awareness and language (a term like gaslighting) to people so that their understanding of abuse is broader and to hopefully bring clarity to people who were like me, searching the internet for answers...I’m not sure if this thread made sense or if anyone will read it but

it’s been helpful for me to write out and process