Sometimes I won& #39;t confront a person when I& #39;m hurt because I generally suck at confrontations but sometimes it& #39;s because I already know I forgive them, and I am terrified at what they& #39;d do with the knowledge if they realise how much I am able to forgive. And how that makes me look

I& #39;ve left relationships where the other person never knew I knew about some things.

Both positions are terrible, but I& #39;d rather you think I am an idiot than for you to know I loved you enough / don& #39;t respect myself enough to allow you to treat me like an idiot.

There& #39;s something there. If you are too ashamed to say you can forgive something, then maybe you shouldn& #39;t be forgiving it in the first place?

It& #39;s also very dangerous to be forgiving people who aren& #39;t sorry, I am so glad I stopped that shit.