!! this is not me clowning y'all this time, i really do need you to read this thread lmfao !!

ok so a week ago, if i'm not mistaken, i was informed of a couple of tweets that were saying i have "coddled transmisogynists". i really didn't know what

the people in question were talking about and, frankly, it really upset me for obvious reasons. HOWEVER, i finally got the chance to speak to one of the people who called me out and ultimately understood what they were referring to. as y'all know, i've made a point to let

transphobes know that my account and my tweets are not for them, they were never welcome and they never will be. still, some time ago and ex mutual of mine was called out for her comments on a group chat, and, yes, they were distasteful. i'll be honest with y'all, i do not

clearly remember what happened afterwards and that's precisely the point i'm trying to make. when this shit happens, trans women don't get to forget. it sticks with them forever and this is exactly why we should believe and listen to them. so, this ex mutual i am talking about

eventually apologized publicly, i read the thread, thought the whole situation was a mess but i ended up deciding it (the apology) was better than saying nothing and let it go. the problem here is, when someone continued to, rightfully, call her (ex oomf) out for her behavior,

after she had posted the apology, i decided to block them (the person calling her out) instead. y'all know what that looks like and that's where i'm trying to get to. i should not have done that because when stuff like this happens you don't just get to brush it under the rug

and the apology? ultimately, it was not up to me to decide if it was ~~good enough~~. so, yes. this is what people mean when they say i coddled a transmisogynist, and even though i know what my true intentions were, others might not and they have every right to be cautious

i have said this a trillion times before but i really, really, REALLY do not want r*dfems, t*rfs (do not want them to hijack this post) etc to think that my account is a safe space for them. i am not cis and i intend to prioritize my own comfort and that of my trans followers

i am not a t*rf, but i still shouldn't have decided to "accept" an apology that wasn't mine to accept and if i could turn back time and i would've done things differently. i know what i'm about though and i'll continue to support non-binary/trans sapphics till the day i d word.

do not hesitate to dm people if you know they're following someone "problematic" because sometimes ppl genuinely do not know what they're doing wrong. to the ones who were rightfully questioning my actions - you were right lmfao and i apologize. i have not

done the same ever since and will never do the same ever again. btw, i always block people who have me blocked first because i think it's only fair and i am petty (and this is not abt what was said above, it's something different) thank you all for reading