Friendly reminder: A sex life and/or romantic partnership are not rewards for being a good person.

And lack thereof doesn't make someone inherently lesser.

I think how "and that's why you're single" is thrown around as an insult. And how the stigma around singlehood can encourage victims to stay in abusive situations. Or even anyone is an unhealthy, unfulfilling situation.

It may be comforting to think every shitty person lives and dies alone, but many abusers are charming and have no trouble finding new people.

Been thinking about the connections between the ways we talk about sex and dating, how it's used to measure someone's worth, and the ways it facilitates unhealthy and destructive relationships.