If due to a systemic problem, like say the pain of pregnant women being dismissed & minimized, women speak up to address it,do I get to come & talk about my personal positive pregnancy experience, using it as an example of why those speaking to the systemic problem are off point?

My story is valid and I can tell it. I should, even because if anything, it can give hope to those who think pregnancy is a death sentence.
What& #39;s problematic is using that story to diminish the systemic problem. Yes, that may not have been the intention, but that& #39;s the outcome.

And it& #39;s important to be able to clearly delineate issues here. And focus. Acknowledging the great things your partner does is a good thing. Suggesting that this personal experience invalidates the existence of a systemic problem is the problematic take.

Again, that may not have been the intent. And I take responsibility for assigning my own meaning to what was said. It& #39;s an opportunity to address an often recurring issue. And I& #39;m taking it. Because I can. You& #39;re welcome to disagree and hold a different view.

You might want to research personal exceptionalism. That might help you understand a little better how, specified or implied, a take like that is problematic.
Also, it& #39;s something most, if not all people do, myself included. So now that we know better, we can do better.