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๐๐ช๐ก๐๐ค ๐ ๐ ๐๐ ๐ง๐ ๐ธ๐๐๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ ๐๐ค Love addiction stands alone, and codependency is only one of several underlying personality disorders. To make it perfectly clear how one love addict differs from here is a thread:
Obsessed Love Addicts: 
They cannot let go of someone they love, even if their partner is: Emotionally or sexually unavailable, afraid to commit, Unable to communicate, Unloving, Distant, Abusive, Controlling, Ego-centric. Addicted (drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, shopping etc.)
They cannot let go of someone they love, even if their partner is: Emotionally or sexually unavailable, afraid to commit, Unable to communicate, Unloving, Distant, Abusive, Controlling, Ego-centric. Addicted (drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, shopping etc.)
Codependent Love Addicts: 
The most widely recognized. Most suffer from low self-esteem and have a certain predictable way of thinking, feeling & behaving. From a place of insecurity and low self-esteem, they try desperately to hold on to the people they are addicted to usingโ
The most widely recognized. Most suffer from low self-esteem and have a certain predictable way of thinking, feeling & behaving. From a place of insecurity and low self-esteem, they try desperately to hold on to the people they are addicted to usingโ
codependent behavior. This includes enabling, rescuing, caretaking, passive-aggressive controlling, and accepting neglect or abuse. In general, CLAs will do anything to โtake careโ of their partners in the hope that they will not leaveโor that someday they will reciprocate.
Relationship Addicts: 
Unlike other love addicts, are no longer in love with their partners but still cannot let go. Usually, they are so unhappy that the relationship affects their health, spirit and emotional well being.
Unlike other love addicts, are no longer in love with their partners but still cannot let go. Usually, they are so unhappy that the relationship affects their health, spirit and emotional well being.
Even if their partner batters them, and they are in danger, they cannot let go. They are afraid of being alone. They are afraid of change. They do not want to hurt or abandon their partners. This can be summed up as โI hate you donโt leave me.โ
Torch Bearers: 
Also ALAs who obsess about someone who is unavailable. This can be done without acting out (suffering in silence) or by pursuing the person they are in love with. This kind of addiction feeds on fantasies and illusions. It is also known as unrequited love.
Also ALAs who obsess about someone who is unavailable. This can be done without acting out (suffering in silence) or by pursuing the person they are in love with. This kind of addiction feeds on fantasies and illusions. It is also known as unrequited love.
Narcissistic Love Addicts: 
NLAs use dominance, seduction and withholding to control their partners. Unlike codependents, who accept a lot of discomfort, narcissists wonโt put up with anything that interferes with their happiness.
NLAs use dominance, seduction and withholding to control their partners. Unlike codependents, who accept a lot of discomfort, narcissists wonโt put up with anything that interferes with their happiness.
They are self-absorbed and their low self-esteem is masked by their grandiosity. Furthermore, rather than seeming to obsess about the relationship, NLAs appear aloof and unconcerned. They do not appear to be addicted at all.
They will panic and use anything at their disposal to hold on to the relationshipโincluding violence. If you have ever seen how some narcissists react to perceived or real abandonment, you will see that they are indeed โhooked.โ
Narcissists and Codependents: It is very common for love addicts to end up in relationships with other love addicts. The most common kind of love-addicted couple is, as you might have guessed, the codependent and the narcissist. In the beginning, narcissists are often seductive.
After they have hooked their codependent partners, however, they change. Here is an example of a narcissist-codependent relationship
The Avoidant Love Addict: 
Avoidant attachment patterns are common in love addictions. The avoidant love addict is often the type of person to whom the typical love addict is attracted. An avoidant love addict thrives on the neediness of the typical love addict.
Avoidant attachment patterns are common in love addictions. The avoidant love addict is often the type of person to whom the typical love addict is attracted. An avoidant love addict thrives on the neediness of the typical love addict.
They look for partners whom he can control and shows signs of narcissism. He craves the attention or even worship of his partner. We call this the avoidant love addict because he avoids true intimacy. His underlying relationship goals are power, control and adoration.
Ambivalent Love Addicts: 
ALAs suffer from avoidant personality disorder. They donโt have a hard time letting go, they have a hard time moving forward. They desperately crave love, but at the same time they are terrified of intimacy. This combination is agonizing.
ALAs suffer from avoidant personality disorder. They donโt have a hard time letting go, they have a hard time moving forward. They desperately crave love, but at the same time they are terrified of intimacy. This combination is agonizing.
Saboteurs: 
ALAs who destroy relationships when they start to get serious or at whatever point their fear of intimacy comes up. This can be anytimeโbefore the first date, after the first date, after sex, after the subject of commitment comes upโwhenever.
ALAs who destroy relationships when they start to get serious or at whatever point their fear of intimacy comes up. This can be anytimeโbefore the first date, after the first date, after sex, after the subject of commitment comes upโwhenever.
Combinations: 
You may find that you have more than one type of love addiction. Many of these types overlap & combine with other behavioral problems. The important thing is to identify your own personal profile so you know what you are dealing with.
You may find that you have more than one type of love addiction. Many of these types overlap & combine with other behavioral problems. The important thing is to identify your own personal profile so you know what you are dealing with.
