I even maintain that a man that is good to you could be a monster to another woman. And please stop reducing feminism arguments to your marriages. You can be happily married to a man who is making life difficult for women at the workplace and reinforcing bad stereotypes at work

He can be great to you, but at work he is doing stupid shit like being part of the boys club that does not let women in. Your man is good to you doesn't invalidate any feminist struggle. Please know this and stop being insensitive.

He can be a great minister to your soul but be using his pulpit in church to reinforce patriarchy, keeping other women in toxic marriages, not holding men accountable or using the word to shatter patriarchal bondages. He prays for you, yes. Yay. But it doesn't invalidate anything

Congratulations. You found a good man. But let's not pretend you could have possibly calculated your way into finding a good partner. You are not better, smarter, more beautiful, more in tune with God, or a better cook than the women who have unfortunately married bad men

Women rarely, rarely ever see a bad man and say "oh this is the one I want to marry."
Many women try to do it right. Meet the men in church, go for the good, gentle looking, praying brother. And yet...
So if yours worked out, please don't gloat.