can i talk about a difficult thing here for a second?

like, just for a minute, i want to stop making joxxx and say a thing i've been meaning to say but i really don't have the good intelligent words for, and i will probably not have the good intelligent words for, all my life:
i'm not really sure if i feel comfortable in the cis man gender identity i've performed all my life.

it's honestly been a performance. a blanket denial of my wants and needs and feelings by myself because i thought those weren't important enough to "make trouble" for
i don't know what the good, intelligent words for people like me are. coz okay, i'm gonna list a bunch of things i like doing:

wearing dresses
doing makeup
shaving my legs
thinking about feelings
talking about feelings

and i'm having trouble saying these are "womanly" things
they're not womanly or manly things

coz there's nothing inherently gendered about a dress. like none of that shit is biological or psychological in nature. the answers for that stuff won't be found in the realm of science.

i like skirts because when i walk, they go whoosh
when it comes to my body, i don't hate it enough to overcome my DEBILITATING fear of doctors and hospitals and knives and tough images in my head about things going wrong and ughhhhhg

i could grow to love this body and the ugh dick
okay now that i'm talking about difficult things
here's a difficult thing: not liking having a dick

i understand it, i can take care of it and keep it relatively stress-free bu making it the only part of myself i exercise

but i don't really like it
it's just a fucking swampy thing that exists and i'm fine with it existing.

if there were a trans fairy
to whom i could say
"i wish this dick away"
i'd do it in a heartbeat

but i don't think there's a trans fairy. there's doctors. i don't really trust doctors with knives
i don't trust anyone with knives. except maybe chefs.

so here's where i'm at:

- ambivalent about my body, in general
- like societally "feminine"-coded things
- would wish the dick away if i could

let's talk about my thoughts on pronouns and words REGARDING ME
okay if any of you take this thread and use it to further your transphobia, i will reach out across the infinite expanse of cyberspace and shove a screwdriver up your nostrils

these tweets, this thread, is ME talking about ME
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