can i talk about a difficult thing here for a second?

like, just for a minute, i want to stop making joxxx and say a thing i& #39;ve been meaning to say but i really don& #39;t have the good intelligent words for, and i will probably not have the good intelligent words for, all my life:
i& #39;m not really sure if i feel comfortable in the cis man gender identity i& #39;ve performed all my life.

it& #39;s honestly been a performance. a blanket denial of my wants and needs and feelings by myself because i thought those weren& #39;t important enough to "make trouble" for
i don& #39;t know what the good, intelligent words for people like me are. coz okay, i& #39;m gonna list a bunch of things i like doing:

wearing dresses
doing makeup
shaving my legs
thinking about feelings
talking about feelings

and i& #39;m having trouble saying these are "womanly" things
they& #39;re not womanly or manly things

coz there& #39;s nothing inherently gendered about a dress. like none of that shit is biological or psychological in nature. the answers for that stuff won& #39;t be found in the realm of science.

i like skirts because when i walk, they go whoosh
when it comes to my body, i don& #39;t hate it enough to overcome my DEBILITATING fear of doctors and hospitals and knives and tough images in my head about things going wrong and ughhhhhg

i could grow to love this body and the ugh dick
okay now that i& #39;m talking about difficult things
here& #39;s a difficult thing: not liking having a dick

i understand it, i can take care of it and keep it relatively stress-free bu making it the only part of myself i exercise

but i don& #39;t really like it
it& #39;s just a fucking swampy thing that exists and i& #39;m fine with it existing.

if there were a trans fairy
to whom i could say
"i wish this dick away"
i& #39;d do it in a heartbeat

but i don& #39;t think there& #39;s a trans fairy. there& #39;s doctors. i don& #39;t really trust doctors with knives
i don& #39;t trust anyone with knives. except maybe chefs.

so here& #39;s where i& #39;m at:

- ambivalent about my body, in general
- like societally "feminine"-coded things
- would wish the dick away if i could

let& #39;s talk about my thoughts on pronouns and words REGARDING ME
okay if any of you take this thread and use it to further your transphobia, i will reach out across the infinite expanse of cyberspace and shove a screwdriver up your nostrils

these tweets, this thread, is ME talking about ME
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