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Just thinking about how "being gentle" was a completely foreign concept to me until my current relationship. Nearly seven years in and I& #39;m still learning what gentility means, to be honest..
I remember one conversation where she was like "Can& #39;t you say that more gently?" And I paused, legit confused, because I literally had no idea what she was talking about. I asked "What exactly do you mean?" I actually needed to see and hear her model what gentility meant to her.
It& #39;s really cool when a partner is willing to model whatever words or behavior they& #39;d like to receive from you. I had no prior context to understand what "gentle" meant because I had never experienced gentility in a relationship before. Ever..
And then, it& #39;s one thing to receive something and another altogether to provide it. She has a very gentle nature, which is a quality that I didn& #39;t even know to look for in another person until we met. But I have had to really learn how to be (more) gentle in return..
Gentility is still not my nature and may never be. I& #39;m fire to her water, for sure. But she tells me that I am a lot more gentle now than ever before, which is a compliment I never even knew I wanted to receive..
For me, being a bit more gentle involves learning how to relax. The less stressed I am, the more at peace I feel, the easier it is to explore and express my "softer" side..
