I just read the saddest thread of women talking abt giant sacrifices they made to support their husbands & how they haven't been supported in return and immediately started thinking of once when explained my queerness by basically saying "gender doesn't matter" and that was a LIE

Me, talking to my Mormon dad about what queerness means for future relationships: "Basically, gender doesn't matter."

What I'm not getting into: Marrying a man feels a 100x more hard/precarious because of implicit expectations and marrying a Mormon man scares the hell out of me

Like,,, most of the Mormon men I know are not ~horrible but they are also married to Mormon women who gush about how "good" and "generous" they were to not dump them when they were dating and ~thought about going to law school~ before becoming a SAHM