Thread by @MagicLotti3, Vent thread incoming! this ones about a former friend who ghosted me [...]

Vent thread incoming! this ones about a former friend who ghosted me literally last night!

since i don& #39;t know their real name im gonna go with their discord name since it seems like they deactivated it.

this is about my "friend" Bunn

we met on the black clover reddit server, they wrote one of my fave fanfics at the time which has since been deleted. we started talking and hit it off REALLY well and became fast friends.

making fanfic ideas and shit, trying to do art trades and being chill.

then... shit starts to happen. Apparently (i had most of the reddit discord muted because of anxiety) they were run out/left because of people harassing them.

me being a good friend left and kept talking.

this happened SO fucking much. at least 3-5 more times.

Then, after a lot of fuckin server fights, even a deleted server. the friendships on Bunn& #39;s end start "falling apart"

after a lot of thought on it today? probably their fault.

lemme breakdown how they treated me, i know a few people follow me who knew them, so they can confirm/

deny if this was actually how they were treated if they feel comfortable doing so.

first off. I wasn& #39;t really allowed to talk about things i like, or disagree with them. if i focused on something i liked Bunn didn& #39;t they actively zoned out.

they would shit talk EVERYONE who wasnt me atm. They would talk about how their & #39;friends& #39; were "backstabbing" them and ill be real?

i fully expect this was them not sharing 100% the same interests as well as being busy.

they snapped at one for having something come up.

or how "big artists" didnt have time for the people who supported them after they got big.

it feels in hindsight that Bunn didn& #39;t like that other people had plans. and expected everyone to bend over backwards for them.

One time they got mad at someone way younger than them for their parents making them volunteer or be away from an agreed upon video watching session.

they screamed that they had betrayed them and was untrustworthy.

they calmed down once they got an explanation but DAMN

also some people just get busy and cant spend all day on discord! i had computer job when we met and it meant i was free a lot since it i had nothing to do at work most of the time. at least one of the people they whined about had school another was in college.

in hindsight, i was absolutely unknowingly enabling them. While i have a reason behind this its not an excuse.

I did try to reign them in and make them calm the fuck down, i do remember just telling them to cut people out after WEEKS of putting up with rants.

to explain my behavior, abuse made it very hard for me to deal with conflict. i often go to a fawn/peacemaker behaviour that would keep me in good favour with people.

ADHD didn& #39;t help because it makes me space when there& #39;s conflict

Im trying my best to unlearn that

but regardless, Bunn would do this constantly, the worst one culminating in a huge fight because someone was rightfully uncomfortable about the premise of a manga they liked.

that was a multi day fight where in all honesty should& #39;ve been a sign i should stop being around them.

fast forward a bit and i finally lose it at them after they cut out two people, one for a reason that i feel was actually valid. and another for the pettiest shit ever.

we fought, after a while we talked and made up.

i shouldn& #39;t have still been their friend after that. strike 2

months pass things kinda start getting better and then i get told verbatim "things you like bore me im sorry, can we use a word when you know to change the topic?"

strike 3, i have no more excuses for being their friend after this.

fast forward again, another discord server joined, left, rejoined and left again. more cutting people out. and we get to a few days ago.

they wonder if i will comm them for some art, i agree, send them 45$ canadian (30$ USD)

a few days pass, allergies and shit making it hard

for them to work, i get it.

Then i get this fucking message.

"Letting you know I loved you very much and thank you for being my friend for so long..."

then nothing, no response, ghosted me, most likely waiting to delete their discord.

i start panicking, worrying, i even send an email just trying to get a response to confirm they& #39;re still alive.

and then it hits me JUST how bad they were to me.

I am too good for them, i gave everything like i do to everyone. i give everyone my all as best i can.

and they squander it. i throw everything at my friends and loved ones as best i can and they spit in my face with this.

if they are okay im gonna give them a chew out the likes of which the world has never ever seen.

ill probably cut ties on my own terms after that, they used up any chances with me.

i deserve better, i deserve to not be with people who want everything from me then spit in my face when i ask for anything back.

if Bunn somehow sees this.

work on yourself, big time.

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