I told my 8 yr old nephew to not put me on a 3 way call with a family friend and he said bye then hung up on me. I called back to talk with him and he said “you didn’t have to say it all rude.” At first I started to invalidate his feelings by saying I wasn’t being rude to him.

My higher self quickly stepped in and checked that shit. Self said girl you can’t tell him how he feels if he feels you spoke to him rudely then apologize because he feels wronged. It doesn’t matter if it was intentional or not. Don’t let him grow up thinking that’s ok.

So I apologized to him and I let him know I didn’t mean to come off as rude and I’m sorry for making him feel that way. I do not want my nephew to think it’s okay for mfs to invalidate his experience with his emotions. What he feels is real whether it’s rational or not.