‘Self-proclaimed’ good guys are very gevaarlik beings .

Usually narcissistic, emotionally abuse beings that are good at reeling you in . They’re very good at selling the “good guy” narrative, and consistently so . Once you get to know them you’ll see that he’s been the problem along. They’re slusially sick.

And once you know them it’s very hard to “try and convince” everyone else that you’re not the bad person in his narrative because everyone has bought into this good guy persona so much he can never do any wrong or he can’t be thaaat bad. Lol

U end up making peace with being the crazy/psycho ex because he’s also very good at selling that narrative. And it’s not worth your energy defending yourself against his lies, he’ll beat you with consistency when it comes to that.Those who don’t “know him” will always believe him

“He’s not that type of guy”... lol oh really ? Oh okay.

“But what did you do?” Ohh really , lol okay

Ohh, and they’re also very good at selling you the “us vs them” narrative once you’re in their grip. They make sure you slowly neglect everyone and everything in your life that matters ( but in a very reassuring way) . Soon you can’t even tell mates what’s up because (cont )

you only realize once you’re way too deep that you’ve actually neglected everything and everyone and you can’t just waltz back with ‘boyfriend drama’ when you’ve been showing everyone how happy you are without them. Then they use that to reinforce the “is vs them” narrative

They love it when you ‘need’ them . And unfortunately when you’re vulnerable and you feel alone and neglected he becomes a safe haven , you just don’t realize that he’s clawing deeper into your being and making sure he’s capturing every single cell in and sense in your body

You’ll cry and beg and apologize for the wrong things he does to you. It’s madness I know right ? But they’re are master manipulators and they’re professionals at living double lives

Ant that’s why when you’re done with them you have to cut off all access because they know what to say to reel you back in . You’re still heartbroken and vulnerable, and often lonely and they know this - they know exactly what to say to pull you back in . Don’t gworl ! Block!

Anyways , I just wish they came with a “DANGER , GEVAAR” sign so you know what you’re getting yourself into . It sucks finding out once you’re already deep inlove with someone that they’re not who you really thought they were. The emotional and mental trauma

Anyway huns , don’t ignore your gut feeling please . That sis knows what’s up from the go , stop ignoring it and letting a narc convince you otherwise because they will. Don’t also let these good guys make you feel bad for not wanting them either, it’s part of their baiting MO

“You leave rona di good guys o rata di bas guys akere”

Many typos but you guys can read between the lines . Thanks for coming to my TED talk sweedys