Growing http://up.In  my township in http://PE.it  was common for guys to prefer dating girls from ‘monied’ families ie daughters of shabeen owners,police,teachers,nurses,General Motors,Ford,VW and insurance companies.

The girls would make sure the fella is well taken care off.His school lunch was proper and he never ran out of cash for cigarettes and beers for the weekend.

The handsome older guys who spoke big English and were involved in politics seldom worked and they too were financially supported by the women they dated.

These cats had the latest fashion ordered from the Mohamed Catalogues.Ostritch leather Bally shoes,leather jackets,Pringle shirts and cardigan http://jerseys.Hair  moisturized with Brylcreem and you could smell the Old Spice or Brut after shave from a distance.

I left PE at age 20 and would visit home over Easter and Dec http://Holidays.To  my surprise.Some of my childhood peers who were now unemployed were dating some of the teachers who taught us and the older ladies who had ‘good’ jobs.

Nigga were driving cars living in the suburbs.They would drop off i’maid’ in the morning at work.Whore around the whole day using her car and collect her from work in the evenings.

It would be disingenuous of some of us to claim not to know of a guy or two or three who doesn’t work and whose concept of work is moving from one woman to the other for financial support.

This culture is prevalent in the big cities too.Once again I am talking from my lived experience.Women don’t make noise about it.I suppose it is out of fear of being judged or out of ‘respect’ for their ‘men’.

Where am I going with this?Though I am against stereotypes and generalizations as I find the divisive and disruptive.Based on my lived experience, @simphiwedana was not off the mark.And it is not for any of us to dictate how she should express herself on this matter

I find the slut shaming laced with falsehoods horrid,vile and totally unnecessary.

We must desist from using women’s sexual history as a weapon to gag and silence them.

If you know you are not a rapist,abuser,misogynist or gold digger-you have no business taking offense.If you can’t engage meaningfully with the assertions made.Scroll last and keep it moving.

The same goes if you don’t deem the size of your penis small and someone makes a generalization that South African men’s penises are small.Even if it is small.Incinci incinci incanca.Why take offense.Where is the harm in that.Scroll past and keep it moving.

As for the women who were leading the choir hurling a barrage of insults over that tweet.I honestly do not know what could have been the motivation or source of your outrage.I am struggling to locate it.

What I know for sure when you are labeled sluts,whores,gold diggers and stupid bitches.When you are being beaten up ,raped and abused.The perpetrators will be the same men you are quick to defend.