ok if u are codependent or have codependent tendencies let me tell u about what’s saving my butt it’s called loving detachment and it’s the practice of caring about someone’s emotions without letting them become your emotions and it slaps

you have to find the best way to do with for yourself but here’s what I do: say in my head (or out loud/ write down depending on where I am) what I’M feeling. I still accidentally tell myself what the other person is feeling sometimes but it’s getting easier.

once I know what It feeling I feel comfortable responding with empathy and love THEN I say this mantra (I know ok I hated mantras too) “I am still a person, I am still whole” and then I think of one thing that is real and true about me

this seems like a stupid amount of work to be able to interact with other people but it’s been so so helpful in not letting my loved one’s emotions drown me or destroy my sense of self :)