I want to talk about Entitlement and how it has affected our mentality.

But first let’s define what entitlement is.

According to google(there is more than one definition btw), Entitlement is the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.

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“It is essentially a personality trait based on the belief that someone deserves resources and others don’t”. There’s a thin line between using entitlement as a weapon of confidence and narcissism.

It manifests itself in relationships, friendships, and worse with strangers

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People who are entitled tend to think they have a right to whatever they want from you and if they don’t get it, they become angry and lash out.

It also happens when someone is used to getting what they want all the time, they get used to it and the entitlement seeps in.

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It starts with upbringing. You see young boys being told that they don’t have any business doing chores and that the young girls belong in the kitchen and are meant to do the chores.

They grow to believe that women must serve them & give them everything including their body

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It is why a man would think he has the right to a woman’s body just because she asked him for money or he takes her out once or twice. It is why a man would irregardless of the woman saying no force himself on her. Because he feels he’s entitled to it.

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And yes, entitlement isn’t gender based. Women feel entitled over men’s bodies too. A guy posted a picture of a woman harassing him and she goes “when you are posting fine pictures why won’t I be interested in you?”

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Going into friendships, the entitlement here is also on another level. You believe your friend must come through for you no matter what. You can’t take no for an answer. Your friend must be the one to take you out all the time because they are richer.

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It manifests itself even with dealings with strangers. You see a celebrity’s random post and you are insulting them that they should do giveaway because they have money. Money that you didn’t work for. Believing you have a right to something that isn’t yours.

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At one point or the other in our lives we must have felt entitled. Think about it. It’s the same mentality that makes women think that once a man tells her he’s in love with her he must give her all his money.

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It is the same thing that creeps into your mind in form of jealousy when your friend is successful and you’re not. “Why her?” “Is it only her?” “Why is she so happy in her relationship?” “She doesn’t deserve this “ “I’m finer than her so I deserve what she has”

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If we ask men and women why they feel entitled to a woman’s body and a man’s money respectively, you’d hear them say “well because I’m a man and she’s meant to give me her body as a woman “ and “I’m a woman so he should spend on me”

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Entitlement exists in marriages too. Yea it does. They use “roles and responsibilities “ to mask it.

It’s the same mentality that makes a woman say just because she’s fine a man must pay for a date even if she has nothing to offer him.

You hear “I’m a woman so”

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Ways of keeping this sense of entitlement under control

• Be thankful. Always. Even when things don’t go our way.

•Practice humility. Recognize that not everyone is as blessed as you are and that you are not entitled to such blessing that anyone else.

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•Be content. It doesn’t mean you don’t want more, but it means you are satisfied with what you have at the moment. “It’s a settled conviction that what we have is ENOUGH”.

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We aren’t perfect. We make mistakes, we get sad and wonder why stuff isn’t going our way.

Use this screenshot to evaluate yourself and make amends when you see that your behavior is leaning towards entitlement.

Thank you for reading.